Last week I unpacked to our team a two-fold challenge – we must:
I shared how we must not lose our capacity to dream.
However, that’s only part of the equation.
So, how do we get better? For many of us, getting better seems vague and it’s often tough to measure in the small moments.
Fortunately, I’m surrounded by people on our ADDO team who excel in this area.
Our president, Bart Newman, challenges each of us to pursue excellence and this practice is embodied by our people.
During our Winter retreat, I shared an example that my friend Billy Boughey shared with me from the book Atomic Habits.
The challenge was to focus on getting 1% better.=[https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=5&v=NQxYlu12ji8&feature=emb_logo
I was thinking about how I could get 1% better.
To get 1% better at speaking I need to watch previous talks to learn.
To get 1% better as a leader I need to listen more than I talk.
To get 1% better in my relationship with those I love I need to be intentional and put time on the calendar.
To get 1% better in my physical health I need to eat more vegetables (ouch).
To get 1% better in my faith walk, I need to read the Bible every day.
Here’s my 3-fold challenge for you:
I’ll admit that this is tough for me. I’d rather make big, bold splashes where I see immediate results.
So, keep dreaming big and keep getting better.
The world needs what you have to offer.
I get it, some people don’t need to be in an office. For many people, your work can be done remotely, and I'm not opposed to work from home.
Here’s where I take issue: when we take work that would be accomplished more effectively if done together, and instead we opt for efficiency and do it alone.
It starts like this:
"Well, that conversation sure is more convenient when it’s on Zoom and doesn’t require me to get in the car and drive somewhere. Let's just connect online."
In fact, I don't really want to go into an office. There are fewer distractions at home.
And church? Yeah, we’ve got two young kids so it would be a heck of a lot easier to watch it online. We don't really need to go in person.
Come to think of it, it might be easier if we just do everything online.
Maybe my wife and I can just go on dates over FaceTime.
And maybe I can put my kids to bed with a Teams meeting.
That call I need to make to my mom? Surely an email would suffice.
After all, it would be far more convenient for me.
Look, I’m not against technology. This isn’t a “get off my front lawn” speech from a grumpy old man.
I'm just reminding you:
Working from home is great (and useful at times), but culture is built from the camaraderie and conversations that happen in person.
I can meet new clients over Zoom, but I can promise you that the relationships are far richer when they can be cultivated in person.
And when someone is sick or disabled, watching a church service online is a great option. However, church isn’t just about a service, it’s about the community you build with other people. And guess what? Yep, that happens better in person.
I’m not against remote working.
I’m thankful for technology.
But go ahead and put me in the category of “in-person preferred.”
If we are going to accelerate our impact as a business, we must do two things:
1. Dream Bigger
2. Get Better
There is tremendous power in the combination of these two. Without getting better, dreaming bigger might be intellectually stimulating but stops short of increasing impact.
Next week I’ll tackle the second point, but today let’s look at how we can continue to dream.
In college I met with Dave Muia, a senior leader in the Athletic Department at the University of Georgia. I was sharing with Dave our dreams for the philanthropy I was involved with and how some thought our dreams were too ambitious. In the middle of our conversation, he got up from his chair and walked over to a filing cabinet.
I was unsure what he was doing, but he pulled out a couple of old annual reports from Coca-Cola. (I say old, because they were a decade old at the time, and now more than 25 years old). However, he was using the vision of Coca-Cola to illustrate the need to dream bigger.
In 1996, Coke had set a goal to serve more than 1 billion servings of their product every single day. The goal was Big. The goal was Bold. The goal was Ambitious.
Here’s the remarkable part, in their 1997 annual report (only one year later) they announced they had hit the goal: 1 billion servings a day.
Did they stop, satisfied with this achievement? No. Instead, they continued to dream and inspired their team and shareholders to keep pushing forward.
1 Billion Down. 47 Billion to go. I love it!
Think about where you are right now.
Have you stopped dreaming big?
Has your organization failed to reach for the new idea?
Have you lost that passion you had in the early years of your career?
Has your church stopped trying to impact more people?
If you’ve stopped dreaming big, take this as your challenge to dream.
Dream again.
Dream bigger.
Start today!
Heads up for those of you who read these posts for business insights, you won’t find them this week. But I want to share something I’ve been grappling with these last several days.
Over the last week, I have been engrossed in the news.
Watching the Russian invasion of Ukraine has been heartbreaking.
President Zelensky. Elon Musk and Starlink. Sanctions. What will Putin do next?
There is no doubt that what's happening will have far-reaching geopolitical ramifications and consequences that will shape foreign policy for years to come.
And although these events and responses will have a long-lasting impact, many realities will remain the same. Even after this current conflict ends, there will still be people around the world who need more opportunities for employment. There will still be children who need a loving home. There will continue to be persistent poverty and real people who need hope and help. There is very real evil in the world that threatens us. As a country, the United States must defend ourselves just like others around the world.
I think it’s important for us to know what’s going on in the world, but we can often feel helpless that we can’t “do more” to make a difference.
What can we do? We can learn. We can advocate for others. We can donate to worthy causes. But something else we can do, that I often overlook, is that we can pray.
Here’s a question: Do you truly believe that God is still active in our world and in the affairs of men? If you don’t, then praying probably won’t seem very important. But if you do believe that to be true, shouldn't we be looking to Him for wisdom, grace, and guidance?
As an American, I’m struck that the words delivered by Abraham Lincoln more than 150 years ago seem every bit as pertinent today.
“We have been preserved, these many years, in peace and prosperity. We have grown in numbers, wealth, and power, as no other nation has ever grown. But we have forgotten God. We have forgotten the gracious hand that preserved us in peace, and multiplied and enriched and strengthened us; and we have vainly imagined, in the deceitfulness of our hearts, that all these blessings were produced by some superior wisdom and virtue of our own. Intoxicated with unbroken success, we have become too self-sufficient to feel the necessity of redeeming and preserving grace, too proud to pray to the God that made us!” – Abraham Lincoln
Pray for peace.
Pray for the people of Ukraine.
Pray for the people of Russia.
Pray for our leaders.
No matter the outcome, we still need to pray.
So, my question today: Have you prayed?
Take the time to be informed and take the time to pray. I know I need to do more of that.
Until the big project is over at work.
Until they get out of this stage.
Until their marriage gets out of this slump.
Until they get more sleep.
Until their parents’ health isn’t an issue.
Until they find someone who will make them happy.
Until COVID is over.
The list goes on.
But keeping it all together is exhausting. Sometimes we can’t keep plowing ahead. Sometimes we need to take a step back so that we can move forward again.
Two weeks ago, at ADDO’s winter retreat, we took that step back.
The larger we become and the busier we get, the tougher it seems to justify pulling the entire organization away. But the truth is, the busier we get, the more we need a retreat.
The word retreat is defined as the act of moving back or withdrawing. It can also be a quiet or secluded place in which one can rest and relax.
Retreats are valuable for teams, and they are valuable for individuals.
Bill Gates pulls away for entire weeks at a time for what he calls “think weeks.” Once per year, Chick-fil-A takes every owner/operator, every corporate staff member, and each of their spouses for four days away.
I know many of you are thinking, “Yeah, Kevin, a retreat would be nice, but that’s not realistic for me.”
Here’s my encouragement: find ways you can pull back and recalibrate.
Take some time to pull back and see the bigger picture.
Take one day a week to rest and recharge.
Take 10 minutes during the day to clear your mind.
When it’s possible, find a way to change your physical location and slow down. A change of place and a change of pace will provide a change of perspective. And changing your perspective might just change everything.
I saw friends answering questionaries about their significant others on Facebook, others shared Instagram stories to showcase their love, and some posted quotes and sweet sentiments that showcased their feelings.
One quote that’s often posted about love comes from the book of Ruth in the Bible:
Wow. That’s some serious commitment, right? Any of us could aspire to that kind of love with someone we are married to, or even dating.
What’s even more remarkable is when you look at the context of this conversation and find out it wasn’t even a romantic type of commitment at all.
Time out. Quick context for those of you who might not be as familiar with the story.
Naomi was married and had two sons. Naomi’s family moved to a place called Moab. In Moab, Naomi’s husband died. Her sons married women from Moab, and then both sons died, as well. Naomi is left with her two daughters-in-law, Ruth and Orpah. Naomi pleads with them to go re-marry and move on with their lives. Orpah finally agrees, but Ruth won’t relent.
That’s where we pick up the conversation in this verse, where daughter-in-law Ruth tells mother-in-law Naomi:
Quit asking me to leave you.
Where you go, I will go.
Where you stay, I will stay.
Your people will be my people.
Your God will be my God.
What a great picture of love, and not just in a romantic sense. In fact, this provides a blueprint of how we can love people during tough times.
Take a look.
Love them where they are. “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you.” In essence, Ruth tells Naomi, I’m going to stay by your side. I’ll be right where you are.
Love them where they’re going. “For where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge.” Not only am I going to be where you are now, I’m going to stay with you!
Love them and their people. “Your people shall be my people.” Said another way, I’m going to love you and your family!
Right this very minute, you probably know someone who is hurting. Maybe a co-worker or a fellow church member. It might be a neighbor or another friend.
Whether sermons, political speeches, or inspirational talks, I believe powerful communication moves hearts and minds, and can inspire action and change.
Have you ever heard something, and you knew it wasn’t great, but you couldn’t quite put your finger on why it wasn’t effective?
One time I asked a friend why a particular talk missed the mark. His response: “Well, a lot of the content was good, but he took us on a merry-go-round, and we were hoping to go on a roller coaster.”
I had never heard that metaphor before, but he was exactly right.
Think about it: if you’re on a merry-go-round, you’re there for one of two reasons. Either you’re there with a child, or you’re on a first date. (If you’re an adult and enjoy merry-go-rounds on your own, that’s definitely weird). Merry-go-rounds are predictable. You hop on; the music starts; the carousel starts moving; and it goes in the same direction, at the same speed, the entire time. It will never speed up, turn around, stop abruptly, or change directions—you know exactly what you’re getting.
A roller coaster, however, is different. When you ride a roller coaster, there’s anticipation before the first plunge, inflection of speed and height as you ride, and emotional highs and lows throughout the twists and turns of the track.
1. Anticipation
Almost all roller coasters begin the same. They hit the track from the loading zone, and you hear the click, click, click of the cars climbing the chain up the first hill. The incline steepens, the noise of the ride gets louder, and your vision of the sky against the track builds your excitement for that first plunge. People love to feel anticipation. Sometimes, the buildup to an experience is the best part. Krispy Kreme does this well for their customers. When you see that the hot sign is on, there’s a gravitational pull of your car into their parking lot. You anticipate that warm, sweet, perfect donut that will melt in your mouth before you even turn on your blinker.
2. Inflection
Roller coaster rides are exciting because your position is constantly changing. You’re up and down hills, around circles, upside down, right-side up, moving extremely fast or extremely slow to build dramatic effect. Whether you’re creating a customer experience, an event, or a speech, how do you create levels of excitement? When speaking, you can elevate your voice or get softer to emphasize a point. You can add various components to your event to engage your audience. Sometimes, it’s getting people out of their seats, or simply changing the medium you’re using to deliver your message. If we are intentional, we can use inflection to create exciting experiences and events.
How do you feel when you ride a merry-go-round? About the same throughout unless you’re feeding off the emotion of another person—the joy of a child or the laughter of a first date. Often, riders high-five each other when they get off a roller coaster because it created an emotional experience they want to share even after it’s over. In the same way, we want to create experiences that leave people feeling so excited, challenged, and empowered that they want to share it with other people.
When you build anticipation, use inflection, and evoke emotion, you’ve created something special that people will remember and remark about.
Try to add one, two, or all three of these elements into the next experience you’re creating.
Whether you’re leading a meeting at work, teaching a Sunday School class, planning a birthday party, or giving a speech, think of ways you can make it more of a roller coaster ride than a merry-go-round.
I remember one story I heard from an elementary school we partnered with a couple years back.
The teacher went around and asked the students what each of them did to help out at home.
“I help clean the dishes,” said one little girl.
“I clean my room,” followed a little boy.
“I take out the trash,” said another girl.
The children went on like this, volunteering the ways they help out at home. As the students started to grow quiet, the teacher noticed that one of the students had not participated or shared his answer with the class.
“Well, do you help out at home?” she asked.
“Yes, I do,” he said.
“How do you help out?” she followed.
“I stay out of the way!”
While his answer was surprising, and kind of funny, it was also sad. The boy may have given the answer in jest, but imagine if he really believes his contribution would always be more harmful than helpful?
I wonder how many adults (if they were being honest) feel the same way. Many people spend their lives trying to stay out of the game and out of the way. Are you spending your time on the sidelines or are you on the front lines? Are you involved in making your world, your community, or your school a better place? It's sad that some feel like they don’t have anything valuable to bring to the table, so they settle for living their lives on the sidelines.
This is often true of people at work. They show up every day to their job, and their goal is to simply stay out the way. They work through their checklist, answer their emails, wrap up their projects, and go home, avoiding any meaningful contribution. In doing so, individuals forfeit the opportunity to add value and make things better.
It happens in schools, in workplaces, in churches, and in communities.
If you see something you want changed, don’t be a spectator, be a contributor. Take a look at your life right now. Are you spending your time on the sidelines, or are you on the front lines, involved in making your world, your community, or your school a better place?
Get engaged at work. Find an opportunity to serve in your church. Sign up to help a local charity. Join the parent-teacher organization at your child’s school. Tell your boss about the idea you had this week. Become a person of action.
The world needs what you have to offer. We are waiting on you.
Over the next couple of weeks, there will be a couple more funerals for folks from our church.
I'm reminded that:
When you gather at a funeral, no one really cares about someone’s income; they focus on the impact that individual had. And if that’s what’s going to matter most at the end of our lives, shouldn’t we be focusing on it now?
If a funeral reminds us to focus, I want to focus on the things that matter most. This week I’ll have the opportunity to leverage my gifts to speak at a business conference, where I’ll challenge leaders to shift their perspective and live up to their God-given potential. This year, ADDO will launch programs in over a thousand schools that will touch the lives of students across the country. And in the evening, I will come home to invest in my family—my wife Laura, our son George, and my daughter Amelia.
I know there will be parts of my life that I’ll drudgingly have to get through, but I want to spend as much time as possible on activities that will matter when I’ve passed away.
Here’s a question that each of us should ask ourselves:
What am I doing today that will outlive my life?
It's probably not the emails in my inbox that need responding to, the bills I must pay, or the countless other things that I spent some time this week agonizing over. Of course, I must do those things, but they aren’t the most important part of what I will do.
At the beginning of the movie Gladiator, Maximus leads his men into battle with this charge:
It’s not that your business doesn’t matter, but time with your kids matters more.
It’s not that your bottom line doesn’t matter but, investing in the lives of your team matters more.
It’s not that your to-do list isn’t filled with important tasks but making the time to sit with a friend really does matter more.
What are you doing today that will echo in eternity?
Will our actions today make the kind of impact that will outlive us?
I sure hope so.