I worked hard to overcome my natural bias to go straight to the negative. Instead, I told him how great it was that he was excelling in so many areas.
This isn’t an “everyone gets a trophy” approach. It’s a carefully crafted strategy to find positive areas so that we can get more of those results.
The same is true when we are leading teams. Most of us spend a lot of time working to understand and learn from failure. We talk a great deal about learning from our mistakes and come to some familiar conclusions:
We often learn the most from our failures. Failures are not final or fatal. When you fail, that’s how you learn. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.
These are all true. We can certainly learn great lessons from failure.
Have you ever done something well, but when asked how you were successful, you didn’t know?
If you don’t know why something is going well when it’s going well, you won’t know how to fix it if it breaks.
At ADDO our failures have been great catalysts to help us learn and grow. We look for things that are broken and try to improve areas of weakness. Recently, however, we’ve started working to also pinpoint and learn from the things we’re doing well.
We are serious about surveying and analyzing our customer satisfaction. In one program with more than 30,000 participants, we experienced a drop in satisfaction. Our team identified problems, created a plan, and made consistent and conscious decisions to get better. As a result, our customer satisfaction rebounded.
Instead of moving on to another area, our team spent time and energy studying what specifically led to this increase in satisfaction. We understand that if we can clearly identify which decisions, actions, and behaviors are driving positive results, then we have a greater chance to replicate them in the future or course-correct if things go wrong.
Identify areas where you can study and replicate success.
Talent: How did you attract the individuals who are now your most valuable team members and employees?
Sales: What did you do differently that helped you make the sale with the stubborn client?
Hospitality: How did you encourage your team to keep intentionally serving customers?
Management: How do you facilitate your most productive meetings?
When you are successful, evaluate your actions. Think about what you’re doing differently when you succeed instead of fixating on why or how you’ve failed. Determine the actions and decisions that lead to positive outcomes, and replicate them in all areas of your life. You’ll find that you can solve problems more widely and efficiently, while pursuing a lifestyle that is proactive toward success rather than reactive to failure.
The TV commercial proclaims the announcement: New and Improved!
The LinkedIn notification lets us know about our contact who moved to a different company.
The latest product grabs the attention at the annual company meeting.
Today, we live in a society that celebrates the latest and greatest. The new product or the latest trend tends to garner the headlines. And, let me be clear, as an entrepreneur I get excited when something is new. I love to see an exciting startup, a brand new venture, and the bold innovations. However, the older I get, the more impressed I am by the individuals, the leaders, and the companies who stay consistent over the long haul. I bet you can think of people like that right now. They show up, day after day, week after week, year after year. They may not be flashy, but they are making a difference. The principle is simple but profound:
Here are a few that come to mind:- My parents, 44 years into a marriage that grows richer each year. They are modeling consistency.- My friend Justin Miller, who co-founded Untold when he was in college and is still at it more than 15 years later. - Our Senior Pastor at church, 72 years old, still serving faithfully after more than 50 years in ministry.
These people understand something I'm just learning to grasp: there's a kind of magic in what Eugene Peterson calls "a long obedience in the same direction."
So today, I want to celebrate each of you who keeps showing up. Those of you who stay committed when it would be easier to quit.Those of you who continue when it’s tempting to chase the next shiny thing. Those of you who understand that faithfulness is worth it, when it seems that no one is noticing.One last thing: when someone comes to your mind today who has been consistent for a long time, reach out and let them know how much you appreciate them. That encouragement might be just what they need to keep going another day.
Over the summer I watched the Olympics and one of my favorite athletes was Noah Lyles. He won the gold in the 100m sprint by a mere .005 seconds.
You’ve heard the saying “life is a marathon, not a sprint.” In most areas, that’s true. When pursuing your goals, investing in your career, raising kids, or maintaining friendships, it’s more about pace than speed and endurance over a long period of time.
But there are times when success comes from a sprint. Lyles's victory, decided by thousandths of a second, reminded me of the power and impact of focused, intense effort over a brief period.
The term “sprints” is used a lot in the business world, specifically in the realm of technology. If a company wants to develop something new, they might issue a sprint to make it happen quickly. They will compile all of the research and preparation ahead of time, and then put focused effort and resources on actually building the new solution during a shorter period of time. So instead of taking years to develop a new technology solution or platform, a fully devoted team could be ready to launch in a matter of weeks, or even days.
At times, I struggle with procrastination. I delay starting an important task because it feels like it will take a marathon to complete it. It’s daunting, and the thought of getting it all done is exhausting. But in these instances, viewing it as a spring can help me get started and make progress quickly. Can’t muster the energy to go through your entire email inbox? Set a timer for twenty minutes of undivided attention and get through as much as you can.
Is the prospect of getting your house organized overwhelming? Start by carving out 30 minutes and pick one area, like your closet, to organize.
Does developing the habit of reading seem impossible? Try this: Commit to reading five pages of a book each night. The average book is 200 pages long, so if you read just five pages a night, you would be on your way to reading up to ten books in one year!
What area of your life could use a sprint? Identify it, define a short period of time that you can run at full speed, and block out the time to do it. A lot of times, the progress we make from a short sprint gives us the energy and momentum necessary to decide to run the entire marathon.
In 1503 Leonardo da Vinci painted the Mona Lisa. 521 years later, it hangs in the Louvre in Paris where millions of people travel to see it each year.
It was da Vinci who also said,
Let’s be real: Most of us are unlikely to have a piece of art that is still being admired five centuries later. But we can all learn something from the truth that da Vinci shared that we should aspire to work that will outlive us. Our outputs should create a lasting impact and imprint.
While that is a noble aspiration, it can be difficult to remember in the rat race of quarterly reports and annual reviews. It’s easy to get bogged down and neglect the bigger picture. Here are some practical steps to keep the focus on things that will outlive us:
Invest in People, Not Just Projects:
When a business is paying ADDO, they are hiring us to build a program or execute a project. Because of that, we can often focus solely on the output for which clients are paying. Even so, we must still dedicate resources to developing our team's skills and potential. By investing in people, you create a ripple effect that extends far beyond your tenure, shaping future leaders who will carry your influence forward.
Build Systems, Not Dependencies:
On the surface, a system doesn’t always sound like something that leads to lasting impact. However, creating robust systems that are able to function without your constant input is a long-term play. Document best practices, establish clear protocols, and empower your team to make decisions. This ensures continuity and allows your influence to persist through the structures you've established, even after you've moved on.
Champion Long-Term Vision:
Be the voice that advocates for the long game. Push for initiatives that may not show immediate returns but have the potential for significant future impact. Make decisions that align with your purpose and will outlast your current leadership role.
There is one other key piece to pursuing lasting impact: a hefty dose of humility. While we are tempted to focus on “shun those studies” and “the work that results,” we can’t overlook “dies with the worker.”
The reality is, the worker eventually dies. So our individual contributions, no matter how impressive, are just one part of a much larger story. The good news:
This shouldn’t discount work that feels monotonous and mundane. Instead, it should challenge us to ask ourselves: Is this work contributing toward something that I’ll be proud of down the road?
On one hand, you've got a burning desire to make a difference, to work hard, and achieve something meaningful. But on the other hand, there's that voice inside saying, "Hey, don't forget to enjoy the ride!" It's like Charlotte’s Web author E.B. White said: “I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”
Here’s the bad news: If you’re a purpose-driven leader and you’re doing it right, this isn’t a problem you’ll ever be able to solve. You don’t arrive. You can’t cross this item off the list.
Rather than being a problem to solve, this is a tension to manage. You don’t ever completely choose between purpose and pleasure. It's not an either/or situation.
So what do we do about it?
Let’s turn to the philosopher Jimmy Buffett (yes, the Margaritaville one), "Go fast enough to get there, but slow enough to see." I really believe that’s the sweet spot we're aiming for, but it is easy to drift to one end of the spectrum.
If we're all purpose and no pleasure, we risk turning into these robotic "human doings" instead of human beings. We might achieve our goals, sure, but at what cost? Burnout? Missed moments with family and friends? A general sense of "Is this all there is?"
On the flip side, if we swing too far into the pleasure zone and forget about our purpose, we might have a great time, but we're not living up to our potential. Not only would we not make the impact we could be making, but we run the risk of feeling like our life is futile. So, how do we navigate this tension? Acknowledge the tension. It's real, it's normal, and it's not going away, so embrace it! Now, make small adjustments. If you're all work and no play, maybe schedule some fun. If you're having a blast but not making progress on your goals, it might be time to buckle down a bit.
At the end of the day, leadership isn't just about crossing finish lines—it's about making the journey worthwhile for you and the people you lead. Make it count, make it meaningful, and yes, make it fun.
But what if I told you that sometimes, the fastest way forward is actually... backward?
C.S. Lewis put it brilliantly when he said:
"We all want progress. But progress means getting nearer to the place where you want to be. And if you have taken a wrong turning then to go forward does not get you any nearer. If you are on the wrong road progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road and in that case the man who turns back soonest is the most progressive man."
Now, I'll be the first to admit: I have a high tolerance for change, an appetite for risk, and a willingness to move quickly. These are often great qualities in a leader. But they come with a catch - I can be painfully slow to pull the plug on something that isn't working. I get trapped by sunk costs, thinking, "We've already invested so much, we can't turn back now!"
(Full transparency: I also don’t love admitting that I was wrong.)
Sound familiar? I thought it might.
Imagine you're on a road trip. You take a wrong turn, and your GPS pipes up, "If you stay on this path, it'll take 3 hours longer to reach your destination. But if you turn around now and get back on the right path, you'll only add 10 minutes to your trip."
You’d be crazy to keep going for those extra 3 hours, right? You would make that U-turn in a heartbeat.
But in life and in business, we are often far more reluctant to make the U-turn. We make decisions based on where we already are, making it incredibly difficult to go backwards. We think, "Well, we've already come this far..."
Here's the truth, though:
Sometimes, it's not even progress at all.
The key is knowing when to reverse course. Great leaders have the courage to admit when something isn't working, the wisdom to recognize when a change of direction is needed, and the willingness to act on that knowledge.
I’m not talking about giving up at the first sign of trouble. I’m advocating that we must acknowledge and admit when staying the course will cost more in the long run than changing direction now.
Sometimes, that means backtracking to find a better path forward. True progress isn't always linear. Sometimes it involves loops, detours, and yes, even U-turns.
So the next time you find yourself wondering if you should keep pushing forward or make a change, remember C.S. Lewis's words. The most progressive leader might just be the one brave enough to turn back and find the right road.
The first say whatever is on their mind, even if it is a little too direct. The second are more sensitive to how others might receive something, so they are more measured in their words but might not say what they need to because they are afraid of upsetting the person on their other end.
We could write a whole blog on the first group that would probably include some entertaining stories and some cringe-worthy moments. But today is a challenge to those in the second category: the people who are not saying something that desperately needs to be said.
The first company I helped start was a service and leadership study abroad program for college students. As we were building the company, we found ourselves in a battle with the University of Georgia to secure course credit for our program: a linchpin in recruiting students to go on our trips.
We had a few very credible professors who were willing to vouch on our behalf. Yet, we found ourselves with tremendous road blocks from the academic establishment at the university. Was our program rigorous enough? Did it meet the high academic standards?
One of the biggest roadblocks came from the study abroad office itself. A unique component of our program was the service learning component, and the University had stated a goal of having more of their students involved in service learning through international programs. Unfortunately, they viewed us as the competition.
In one of the most memorable meetings, I was with both my business partner and a tenured professor who was an advocate and advisor to our program. We sat across the table from the leadership of the study abroad office.
Our conversation went something like this:
Study Abroad Representative: “We do not need another program that offers service learning.”
Professor: But you’ve said that service learning is a key priority.
Study Abroad Representative: Yes, but we are already leading the nation. Nearly 5% of our programs have a service learning component.
That’s when the professor said what desperately needed to be said: “Nearly 5%?” as if to say, “Did I hear that right?” She went on in the kindest, but most direct way: “Quite frankly, that is very unimpressive.”
Her words cut through the air. She wasn't being confrontational for the sake of it. She recognized a critical moment where honesty was necessary to challenge complacency and push for better. Her courageous candor sparked a deeper conversation about creating real change.
By voicing opportunities to be better, leaders create the space for change to occur. It's about shining a light on issues that have been hiding in plain sight, compelling others to confront realities they've been comfortably ignoring.
However, it's important to note that speaking up effectively isn't about being confrontational or disrespectful. The professor in our meeting demonstrated how to deliver a hard truth with tact and professionalism. Her approach opened doors rather than slamming them shut.
As a leader, are you prepared to be that voice when the situation demands it? Are you creating an environment where others feel safe to do the same?
Sometimes, the most impactful thing a leader can do is simply say what needs to be said.
There are many leadership strategies and approaches. Search for leadership books online and you’ll find no shortage of advice and direction. These strategies might depend on the context of the team or the personality style of the leader.
In my work, one of the biggest gaps I see in organizations is two contrasting styles of leadership, often seen split between different generations of leaders:
The first approach is built on a heavy-handed, inflexible approach. That may sound harsh, but the intent is positive. For many years, leaders have used this approach to ensure clear communication and consistent outcomes. It is about ensuring compliance (often mistaken for contribution, as I’ve written about before).
The second approach is more flexible. It centers around empowering the people you lead, inspiring them to contribute. But it can feel more difficult to predict, so many leaders don’t choose this approach because they worry about achieving tangible outcomes or whether it will help their organization scale.
I recently picked up Stephen Covey's book Trust and Inspire. Covey paints a crystal clear picture of these two styles of leadership. He names them “command and control” vs “trust and inspire”. Here is a snapshot of how Covey contrasts these two styles:
I’ve spent the last 15 years building programs that impact the next generation; from high school students to college students to frontline workers. What I’ve found is that inspirational leadership is not a preferred strategy, but it is the only strategy that will keep people engaged and effective over the long term. Trust and inspiration can feel fluffy or unquantifiable, but we actually can see that it works. A study from Bain & Company revealed that inspired employees are 125% more productive than those who are simply satisfied. That's more than double!
That’s the power of inspiration.
So, if you were trained to achieve results through command and control, how do you make the shift? It starts with changing your perspective on leadership.
Build real relationships. Share a vision that gets people fired up. Encourage your team to take risks and try new things. Give them chances to grow. Don't forget to celebrate the wins, big and small.
Leaders inspire. When you implement the approaches outlined above, you’ll unlock a new level of performance, productivity, and loyalty, and your whole organization will be better for it.